5 Tips to Create More whilst Doing Less.
For many years, I dreamed of relaxing on a beach while drinking margeritas. Instead, I worked 12–16 hour days and then watched TV mindlessly until sleep took over. By the time the weekend rolled around, there were errands, chores, and—oh yes—I needed to catch up on sleep. I had no time or energy to plan or do anything fun. I felt powerless. My body broke down, I destroyed multi million dollar businesses, I lost everything I had worked so hard to create – the house, the cars, the money, my marriage and I wanted to die. I was trapped.
For decades, I asked myself, “How can I end this cycle? There has to be more than this and if there is not I am out of here!” Sound familiar?
Well, I finally got the aha moment …I am the creator of my own life and everything that showed up in my life, my body, my business – all of it, I had created. Imagine my excitement when I realized that if I had been working so hard and potently to create my life as constant cycles of abuse, trauma, drama and emergencies, what I could create if I used my potency for me rather than against me?
Are you addicted to overachievement?
I don’t know about you, but I got a short lived thrill every time I crossed a task off of my list. The trouble is the more I functioned from the judgment of not being, not achieving, not DOING enough, The more tasks I crossed off, the more frustrated and overwhelm set in and the less joy I had. I wanted to prove that I was indispensable, hardworking, and loyal.
I loved being the one that could handle it all. And if I promised that I would get it done by a deadline, I would move planets to do it. I was creating change and money for everyone else and watching them get free BUT, it was not enough. I felt exhausted. I had very little energy left to give anyone, especially myself. I wasn’t having fun like I envisioned. Even though I was busy, I had my head so disconnected from my body, that I was on a constant Mobius strip, a hamster wheel of distracting myself from actually showing up to create a magical life.
What I know for sure is that the magic happens when you stay present with your body. Stop going into the past or in to the future pico universes of an overactive mind and stay present in the moment. Being is an action quite different to doing. Being present, for me right now is writing this blog on a pool lounger under a tree while Thalia attends a playshop of her own. The birds are singing, a white kitty is giving me a love and telling me about what she knows and granted I have no margarita but the water is great – seriously How does it get any better than this?
What if by enjoying the moment and doing less, more than you could ever imagine possible shows up as if by magic? How many of those aha, moments come to you when you are in that space of nothingness?
Would you be willing, just for today to breathe in the sunshine and birdsong and stay present. Universe show me something beautiful today…. Then sit back and totally receive all of what comes to you!
What if the HOW is where you employ the Universe to show you what that is?
Doing less does not make you less valuable.
Why was I doing this to myself? The problem was—deep down—I needed to feel valuable, to be acknowleged, to make a difference in the world. And the more I did, the more de valued and valuable I felt. But after the initial rush, doing all of those tiny tasks felt unsatisfying. And then I realized, doing less of what is not aligned with your goals is okay. When you do unnecessary tasks that don’t contribute to your overarching targets , it can leave you feeling unmotivated and very dissatisfied. That is the key to doing less while still generating and creating your life as your business.
Do less of what is not important, and do only what matters most to you. How do you know what matters most to you? What if you get past understanding and the why’s of what you choose and in to generative question instead?
Here are a few things you could begin exploring to open you up to a different possibility.
1.Discover what motivates you—beyond the why!
You are your own North star! Does the energy of what you are creating match your target?
What would it take to trust you enough to move out of the predictabilty of what you bought as true that actually is a lie? What if you would be willing to let go of being vested in the outcome of any and all preconceived ideas based on other people’s realities of what success and failure are? What questions could you ask that would keep you present to create and generate beyond what you know IS possible?
2.Be totally malleable and flexible.
If what you are generating does not match the energy of what you are creating, choose something else or ask what you could ADD to amplify the energy or out create it. If you had 10 seconds to live the rest of your life, what would you choose? Ok that 10 seconds is gone, what do you choose, ok that 10 seconds is gone what do you choose? Notice that when you go in to trying or efforting against your knowing how heavy and difficult it gets? What if by being totally honest with yourself in that moment of choice, you could create more joy and ease? For me if it is not fun, choose something else? Simple !
Ask : What grand and glorious adventures will I have today?
What would it take for me to amplify the energy of ……. For all the world to see?
What energy, space and consciousness can me and my body be that would allow this to be ease, joy and glory right away?
I used to believe that it would take less time for me to do a task myself then to deal with the back-and-forth of training someone else to meet my high standards. Interesting point of view right? What do you dislike doing? What if you asked for the person who is so brilliant at the things that are not light and fun for you to show up? Would you be willing to be happy that there are amazing creators out there that can do the things you dislike BETTER and faster than you? I am so grateful for sites like fiverr.com where there are super heros willing to do pretty much anything for $5!
If you are willing to let go of being the c
ontrol freak of magnitude and thankfully hand over to someone who enjoys those tasks that are not fun for you, then you get to spend more of your time creating the money doing what is easy and expansive for you, to pay for the parts that you don’t like. How does it get better than that?
Ask : what would it take for the person most suited to show up and do this for me right now?
Have you noticed how easily you go in to the wrongness of YOU, when you can’t say no? How many decisions judgments, conclusions, and other obsessive, compulsive points of views do you have based on what it means to say NO or YES, when you actually mean NO. Our task lists fill up when we don’t say, “no.” Learn how to say no. Need ideas? Here are 99 ways to say no, politely, succinctly, and unapologetically. What if you give up the abusive, unkindness of going against you and choice and step in to the kind honoring of you instead? How much change could you create by no longer being the doormat of other’s manipulations. There is no maybe here, only YES or NO.
Ask: if I choose this what will my life look like 6 months, a year, 2 years, 5 years from now?If I don’t choose this what what will my life look like 6 months, a year, 2 years, 5 years from now?
Will this be a contribution to me, to my body, to my business? If not, what if saying no could be that kindness to you and the other person/ Thank you for asking, this is not going to work for me! What else is possible?
5.Get clear on what your aim is for the day.
What if you ask your business what it required of you today to out create and expand it exponentially? Also ask you business what contribution it can be to you? Energy of contribution is a beneficial gifting and receiving! By staying in the question and wonderment, you will get clear on where to direct your energy without going in to the litany of judgment about what you did not do!
“In life, you can either be the hammer or the nail. You can apply force and energy where you want it to go, or you can react to the force and energy of others.” Sparkpeople,
The more you react instead of act, the harder it is to set your own direction. And the more likely it is that you’ll wake up one day and wonder where you “went wrong.”
Are you wiling to be and do whatever it takes no matter what it looks like or how it shows up to have a phenomenal life? What if you can BE the joy of consciously creating the life you want to have and live in your abundant True Nature Now? !
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May all of life come to you with ease, joy and glory!
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