The Law of Reciprocity (if you are nice to me, I’ll be nice to you and if you are mean to me, I’llbe mean to you) is demonstrated every single day in my house. It looks something like this: Thalia says something to me, the cat, her dad and then gets what she wants and manipulates herself out of the “deal” or gets scratched! Or Misha my husky pinches Pongo the dalmation’s bone and he is like what just happened here and they have a snarly match. Everyone ends up heavy and mad. Or, Thalia decides to be really helpful and packs her stuff away or cooks with me and I returns the favor in a similar manner.Its a win, win when you know exactly what the deal is. Deal and deliver is how I live my life and get really clear are where I am at, and other people.
I love what Krista Martin has to say about reciprocity at Make your Mark !
It’s easy to think that we need to wait for someone to give to US before we give to THEM. Who knows if they are really going to do what they say, anyway, and you don’t want to waste your energy. Or your time. Or your money.
I wonder, though, how much time do you spend wondering if and when that other person will actually give to you?
I have learned that in business, just like in life, it’s best to give and to not worry about when and how it comes back to me. Learning this has given me back so much time. It’s refreshing.
When a colleague asks me to please help promote his or her event, I am glad to do it. I do as I promise and I go on.
When I ask colleagues to support me by promoting my events, I don’t worry or stalk them out to see when and if they did as they promised.
Because it doesn’t matter.
It’s the giving spirit that is created within you and when you focus on what you are creating – not measuring the exact things that people do or don’t do – you are opening up yourself to receive more.
It sounds counterintuitive, but it’s true.
“Trying to get without first giving is as fruitless as trying to reap without having sown.” ~ Napoleon Hill
Try “deal and deliver” this week and see what changes for you.
It goes something like this: ( set up a Deal and Deliver session and see how much freedom opens up in your world! or take an Access Consciousness™ core class like foundation, level 1 which I am teaching in February where this comes from, thanks Gary and Dain!)
What is the deal here?
What do I want delivered or the deal to look like?
Can this persons deliver?
Will they deliver?
What do I have to deliver to get what I want?
What am I unwilling to ask for?
I’ve noticed that many of us, as entrepreneurs, don’t always take this philosophy to heart and start aware of everything. When you get exact about what you are asking for and what reciprocity looks like, your whole life and business will get easy.
I’ll work with my child Thalia on implementing the “nice” version of this law and try not to get so freaked out when she is extra nice to me. On purpose.
and remember : never justify, never confront or seek approval. Trust you and trust that other people will choose what they are creating and then you won’t find yourself in any place that is not a kindness and reciprocity – a mutual gifting and receiving where everyone expands and changes the world !
What else is possible?
Thank you for allowing me space in your life to receive from me. As always, please comment or contact me at any time with questions, ideas, or suggestions. I’m here to help you make your dream life the joy of business your reality!