“a big part of building your self love muscle with integrity and alignment is permission.”
permission is actually a big part of everything you are here to do: igniting your light, beaming your message out in a way that feels authentic, building your tower and your foundation, and taking the steps you need to take to get unstuck.
permission is a huge key to all of it. and it is something that comes up again and again as i work with and talk with women in biz.
I recently ad the honour and privilege of standing with a tribe of incredible women at The
Entrepreneurial Women’s leadership summit with Sage Lavine.
I wept with relief at the infinite amount of love and kindness that is possible when women
truly see each other for the gifts that they are and I knew that I was not insane for knowing
it is truly possible to have a tribe who are supportive and loving of each other no matter what!
My story is not unique, as a collective all the women I met related to the ancestral and kharmic
programming of being a woman shunned, persecuted, hung, cast out and killed for being in her
true nature. That is the heart connection of the women like Sage that I met, that brings us together
to write a new story and live into LEGACY that it does not have to be this way any longer!
Throughout the course of my life, I’ve had women both stand by me, and abandon me.
Women have been my biggest cheerleaders and my biggest enemies.
Women have been brutal, bitchy and backstabbing during super vulnerable moments
when I’ve stepped into my leadership, sometimes for the first time.
And, women have lifted me up when I’ve fallen, dusted me off and sent me back out into the world…
with a nurturing love that heals, transforms and changed my life.
I’m guessing you may know what I’m talking about.
In your path to self-expression you’ve been supported,
and knocked down a few notches when you become perhaps…
“too big for your britches” in the eyes of a so-called “girlfriend”?
What about you, have women failed to support you at key moments?
If emotions come up, express them, journal, cry if you want to… and hold yourself.
Give yourself the gift of expressing that pain.
Then, call a trusted girlfriend who has EARNED THE RIGHT to support you,
someone you really trust. Ask for what you need from her, ask her to remind you who you really are.
Ask if she will stand by you NO MATTER WHAT as you build your business…
and when she says that she will, let it in. Use that as a springboard to take your
next risky business step.
This is the Diamond zone of a new feminine economy and this is what I what my
community is about…
giving permission to tread softly on the feminine
standing with women in our tribal strength as natural carers and nurturers together!!
It’s the action steps that heal, not repetitive inner work. And, you need to have your women alongside you to take those bold actions.
As you give yourself permission to shine, as you heal, you can ALCHEMIZE
any old girl-wounds into part of the gift you bring to your clients, a hurt
when alchemized becomes compassion, empowerment or courage.
You’ll bring these qualities to your work with clients.
I’ve gone from being the underdog among my woman peers at high school and business,
to being a leader of women in my 4th decade.
My woundings continue to emerge as my biggest gift.
Because I know what it’s like to be on the receiving end of women’s competition
and unkindness and wrath, I also intuitively know how to hold a safe space of community
for my women clients.
And so it will be with your wound… what you’ve been through will emerge
as the golden lining of your business message.
Use each other. Support each other. Tap into the Wisdom and Wealth of Women
to support you.
and consider some of the places you have not loved yourself enough to give permission
to saying YES and going beyond old woundings and stories keeping you stuck in
what you DON”T want*
who else is going to give you permission?
there is no boss, no manager, no leader, or teacher to figure this out and tell you what to do.
this is your job now. you are the boss, the captain of your own ship.
you need to be in charge. you need to tell you what to do.
you have permission to decide.
often we don’t give ourselves permission because we don’t actually trust ourselves.
start with what you know for sure and build on that. build belief in what you are doing.
you have permission to trust yourself.
what would happen if you did?
what would happen if you didn’t?
what are the benefits? the consequences?
will anyone even care?
and if they did, so what?
are your worries about this thing real, or are they in your head?
you have permission to get real.
instead of asking who am i to ______ (do this thing i dream of doing)…
start asking who am i NOT to? if you DON’T do it, what are you saying?
that you don’t care about those people that you long to serve?
you have permission to feel worthy.
to own your carat worth!
when people tell you that they love what you do, that they support you,
that they want you succeed, that they value you, that they are looking to
you for the next step…
people don’t just make that shit up. they don’t lie about what they love.
you have permission to believe them.
you are not a volunteer. this is a business. it is your job to build something
that allows you to earn money doing the work that you are here to do.
even if it is easy, natural, authentic, fun, or stuff that you would do anyways!
you serve, you deserve.
you have permission to create your Diamond wealth zone
you have permission to shine
you have permission to claim your financial freedom.
we have all these rules in our heads about what we need to do and
how to do it, sometimes based on what we see others doing, or
what we’ve been told to do, or the stories we are telling ourselves.
but who says?
who wrote that rule?
you have permission to ask WDTBT?
we often wait for everything to be ready, to be right, to be perfect,
to be figured out, to have our ducks all in a row, a 5 year plan,
or a 10 point checklist. but you are allowed to just fucking do it.
it’s ok to take action before you are ready. you have permission to JFDI.
somebody might not like it. someone might be upset. you might hear that
you are wrong or crazy or making a mistake. that’s ok though,
there will always be people who feel the need to spread negativity
(and it’s always more about them than it is about you!).
you have permission to ignore the haters.
often when we allow ourselves to consider something our heads get way
ahead of us, our brains start going crazy.
it feels impossible and overwhelming fast! start with the tiniest step.
keep it as simple as possible. make it incremental.
you have permission to start small.
we feel obligated to say yes. we feel bad if we say no. we feel guilty.
we feel like we are missing out. we feel like it might make us look like a bitch.
or look selfish.
but we can only stretch so far, and a NO is a yes to something else.
you have permission to create boundaries.
it is in doing that we get clarity. it is in talking that we find the right words.
we learn as we go, and as we know more we can do better.
but we don’t learn anything or get any clarity if we stay in our heads and never try.
you have permission to just try.
we are so close to what we do, it’s so personal. and there is only us…
only one perspective. sometimes fresh eyes and a fresh perspective can make a huge difference.
that’s why coaches and mentors and mastermind partners and other Diamond geniuses
are so important.
you have permission to seek support.
sometimes all the support and all the learning and all of the seeking
just confuses things even more. you have a sense of knowing already built in,
you just need to learn to listen to and trust that inner voice,
that intuition or knowing.
you have permission to follow your inner compass.
you have permission to say YES to claim your freedom.
you have permission to say YES to being self FULL
because when you track your north star and claim it
then others get to say YES to themselves too.
can you add to this list?
pop your ideas below!
how else can we give ourselves permission today?