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“Resistance obstructs movements only from a lower sphere to a higher. It kicks in when we seek to pursue a calling in the arts, launch an innovative enterprise, or evolve to a higher station morally, ethically, or spiritually. So if you’re in Calcutta working with the Mother Teresa Foundation and you’re thinking of bolting to a launch a career in telemarketing…relax. Resistance will give you a free pass.”
—Stephen Pressfield, The War of Art
I recently learned about a high end mentorship program designed to help businesses like mine grow in new ways.
Since I’ve been expanding more and more online, and since I have come back full circle to acknowledge how important my work in the area of trauma release, depression and anxiety is becoming. I have committed to empower people to use the systems I have created in a functional, wholistic approach to BE YOUR OWN MEDICINE , I was seriously considering investing more time and money in yet another program.
At first when it felt really aligned, I could hardly contain my excitement. It seemed to be exactly what I was looking for.
And yet as I continued to sit with the decision and consider the hefty price of participation, something began to change. Doubts began to arise: Would I like the other people in the program? Would it require more time or energy than I have available? Would it be worth the money that I put in? Was I chasing bright shiny promises when I know I just need to focus and get it done?
In short, I got scared. I went into doubt, reasons and justifications and had to pause, go deep into the resistance, just like I ask of my clients and think from my heart not my head!
I often say that you can tap into your wisdom by listening to your gut ( you have to support a healthy gut first) before you can follow your gut, intuitive knowing both of which are expressed in your body first.
And it’s true. But what is important to note is what is true and the truth, the innate wisdom or the mind chatter and that can be confusing. You see it all starts with a healthy nervous system and knowing how to create secure attachment. ( I go in to this with a lot of depth in the Out of the Blues – 3 month group program and the 5 week Freedom 5 – The Art of Stress less Living starter class on neuro modulation and how to reboot your nervous system first.) If you have been getting mixed signals from your body or are feeling anxious and overwhelmed by an opportunity, just notice the feeling in your body without attachment to good, bad, right or wrong, just mindfulness observation.
As Stephen Pressfield points out in his brilliant book The War of Art—when our innate wisdom guides us to do something that’s going to take us into a higher level of moral integrity and spirituality , resistance and fear kick in. Your nervous system – interception and interception kicks in to stop you from putting yourself in the way of danger. Its a natural response to keep the body alive, unfortunately the brain does not know the difference between a real threat like being a lions dinner or an imagined famine when we worry about a our money situations or other what if….
This happens to me nearly every time I consider doing something that will allow me to out create and expand, and I’m pretty sure it’s happened to just about every person who’s ever considered doing a coaching program with me.
The danger is, blindly following our resistance is the most effective way to run smack into what we’re afraid of. If we listen to the fear and ignore what we feel called to do, we won’t do the things that will help us to succeed. We won’t sit down to create, we won’t share our work with the world, and we won’t seek the help we need to expand and grow and learn. Without these actions, we’re almost certain to fail, and thus our doubt becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So how can we tell if the negative response we feel is coming from our wisdom or fear? How do we know whether it’s best to say yes to an opportunity or politely decline?
The voice of innate wisdom feels different than the voice of fear, energetically and in the body.
Though each feels different to everyone, there are some general rules of thumb:
Wisdom tends to be quiet, relaxed, patient, energized, or grounded. Even when it’s giving us bad news or pointing out a legitimate concern, it’s not shoving images of failure in front of our faces. It’s simply saying, in a calm and neutral way, “Something about this doesn’t feel quite right for us.”
Fear, on the other hand, tends to be loud, urgent, heavy, tense, and exhausting. It’s obsessive and can’t wait to talk about what could go wrong. It tells us we have to figure this out now. It uses whatever images, ideas, and volume it can get its hands on to increase our sense of panic and unrest.
You can get a lot of clarity just by noticing the flavor of the different thoughts in your head.
Once you’ve identified your wisdom, it can give you all kinds of useful guidance. But what we sometimes forget is that the fear can too, if we only take the time to listen.
Sometimes fear is just asking for reassurance. You can do this by asking yourself how you know your fear to be true. What evidence do you have that things will go badly? And if they do, would that really be as catastrophic as you imagine? Alternatively, what evidence can you find that things might actually go well? When have you made good on opportunities in the past or accomplished what you set out to do?
If you can’t reassure your fears, then be kind to them. Listen to them. While it’s not good to reflexively make decisions out of fear, it’s also not helpful if we force ourselves to stretch too far too fast.
In my case, my inquiry into intuition and fear led me to two realizations: first, that I absolutely wanted to commit to myself, my potential, and my intentions by investing in support that could help me to grow.
What I also realized was that this growth will necessarily challenge me, and I need to step into it slowly and gently. So I got on the phone with the woman leading the program once again to ask her some targeted questions. I found out that she’s all about being gentle and going at a pace that feels right. Learning this, my intuition confirmed that this is the right step for me to take.
I patted my fear on the head, took a big gulp, and paid my deposit.
How do you tell the difference between wisdom and fear? How have each helped you make good decisions in the past? Please share your ideas and experience in the comments section of this post
Sometimes we need a little help to be able to hear what our inner wisdom is saying. I offer 1:1 sessions designed to help you get clear about what you’re wanting and how to find work that’s aligned with your calling. If you are ready to do the work and get clear on where you are going, whom you are becoming and how to create a phenomenal future. Book your 45 minute CLARIY breakthrough session now.
2016 is a completion of another cycle, a time to cut the dead wood and release anything and anyone who is no longer contributing to you best life. Its a year to focus on where you want to be 6 months, a year, 2 years from now and prioritise an action plan to make sure you receive what you want. It is not going to be easier than 2015, in fact the energies will continue to amplify, to force us to stop the madness and thrive. That is exactly why we must continue to do the inner work, heal the separation sickness by coming back to hearts before we will see the external world match the new higher vibrations, It starts with you saying YES to you and I want to support you any which way possible. I believe we are not here on this planet to make six figures, to be the most popular person in the world or get fancy invites to exclusive events. I believe we are here in the 9 energy of the collective consciousness to rise above the ego identity and into the WE which starts with remembering you are enough, there is enough ( so long as we practise benevolent capitalism and be the guardians of the planet.) and there is enough gratitude, honour, allowance, vulnerability and trust. We can transmute fear, lack, scarcity, hatred, anger , jealousy through LOVE and it starts with loving yourself exactly as you are. Have you booked your complimentary CLARITY breakthrough session yet? I only have a limited amount of these available this month so be sure you don’t miss out and take advantage of this invitation now by booking here
Because in 2015 everything that was stripped away, burnt up, swept away in the under tow of my watery emotions and the nurturing spaces in between have carried me in to a new space of being a greater version of myself beyond the I Am. I am choosing to TRUST that I AM, that I AM free to be me, undefinable even in my messy bits. The mess is in the message after all.
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Here is to your high shine success and happiness,
love and gratitude
P.S. The reality is, a lot of people want their lives to change. They want their bank accounts to grow, their businesses to expand, their marriages to become passionate again and their families to be harmonious and loving. They want all of these things, but they’re not willing to do what it takes to actually see these changes happen.
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