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In Praise of Women

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by Danielle La Porte

I often hear “women are our own worst enemies” in terms of our culture. I’m tired of that argument. I think everyone is their own worst enemy, and I don’t think it’s about something women have specifically against each other.

The uh, broadness, of my experience with the women throughout my life leaves me humble, optimistic, proud, and grateful. I’ve been screwed over by females in business and love, and I’ve planted a few landmines myself. But those enemy-making times were the results of bumbling, struggling humanness, not ovaries or hormones. We could argue the bio-instincts to procreate, protect and feed that spurs some nasty behavior from chicks, or about Queen Bees and Wanna-Bees — all very real social dynamics, but I’m here to give witness to the force of pure Goddess positivity that is the hallmark of my life. Word.

I love when having a dose of strong medicine opens up new dialogue and enquiry.

As women Danielle La Portes post I just saw made me smile as she spoke of how we as women push
Push out babies, push out creations, push out truths and push out support into the world

It’s innately within our womb an space to push so stop denying being too pushy and share your voice unapologetically.

And I am reminded again and again how walking the spiral path of ones true calling requires a constant state of death, birth and renewal over and over again.

That as women when we can hold a space to be in the presence of women on a mission we can love the parts illuminated and the parts in the dark as equally memorable and see the power in the cycles of death and rebirth together and let’s push a kinder more connected, beneficent presence out into the ether and the earth

‪#‎goddess‬ power

Remember we are all in this together. Whether we like it or not our friends are going through the experience of life on Earth just the same way that we are, just as our family has, just as our enemies do.

This thing of being human is Mary Magdeleine, Kali, dragon breath, creator and destroyer and when we can see the potential of all things as equal, true change begins that puts into motion a collective bigger than us all.

We are all in this together, the agony and ecstasy of BEING human.

What would happen if we acted and actioned all of it ??

Creator and destroyer ??

I wonder, what is one action you could take today to support our inter connectedness

The fragility and potency of this thing called human Beingness?

Tell me about it and let’s do this thing together

womanbow

 

MY LIVED EXPERIENCE IS THAT WOMEN SIMPLY ADORE WOMEN:

Women shake their cosmic pom poms. Go sister go! How many times has a girlfriend told you, that you got it going on, before you head out the door or the dressing room? That even though your new haircut makes you look like a mushroom, your ass looks grrreat. They’ll be looking at your ass all night, not your hair. Really, you’re hot. Just keep your hat on and don’t sit downGo get ‘em.

A woman makes a cup of her heart. She carries your concerns and fears with you, for you. When your eyes fill up with teary news, so do hers. It happens with women you’ve known for years, with women you just met at the grocery store, in the ladies room, in a prayer circle. She carries your story with her. She mixes honey with it and re-tells it to you and helps you notice how great you’re doing, in spite of everything, because of everything.

Women bare their fangs for you. Like when Tammy threatened to butt her cigarette out between buddy’s eyebrows if he didn’t leave us alone. He walked, we rocked.

Women feed each other – literally and figuratively.  Think of all the meetings or retreats you’ve been to. Who brings the cocoa and sparkling water? Who remembers that you’re lactose intolerant? Who asks you if you have everything you need?

A woman will sacrifice without calling it a sacrifice. Leila was three months pregnant. I was moving cross-country (again.) Road trip anyone? We U-hauled our way from Seattle to Santa Fe with Leila coughing her cookies at every truck stop. I made it to my desert home and she flew back to the coast. And named her little girl Phoebe Danielle.

Women hold on. It’s like Audrey Hepburn said, “Never throw anyone out.” It’s like my soul sister Donna says, “We’re all bozos on the same bus so just go with it.” Meep meep.

Women bypass history. A good sister listens to you bitch about the same jerk for years, she helps you pack when you’re smart enough to leave, and she stands by you when you repeat the same lesson with the next emotionally lame lover. She loves you enough to let you do it your way – again, and again, like it was the first time. No drama is too big for big women. 

A woman howls to help you remember what matters the most. She loves you enough to intervene. She will drag you out of your comfort zone and into the moonlight to say “What the fuck are you doing? You may have temporarily forgotten who you are, but I haven’t and I’m here to remind you.” Like when Karen told me over green tea, “D, maybe it’s all about the divine feminine for you, maybe that’s the question to live. It’s time to move on from playing small.” Arooooo!

Women touch you. Michelle and I went to visit a friend in the hospital recovering from surgery. Miche brought lavender lotion and massaged Friend’s feet while she lay achy and groggy. I’ll never forget that stunning moment of loving service.

Women push. Push babies out, push babies into the world. Baby ideas. Baby thought forms. Baby parts of you. “But Danielle, it’s just a thought-form that you ‘can’t take more,’” Navjit told me. “Don’t constrict. Expand.” Boundaries, pushed.

Women know how to navigate the layers because they love the layers. Folds of skin, the sediments of time, the stories that build into the present. Like how Candis not only remembers what I love but knows why I love it. She is reverent, keen, actively interested in the why of me – and that is what it means to be witnessed by a woman. Word.
All Love,

P.S. Check out my For women, women, women reading list for most posts like this one. Feminine power. Let’s talk about it. We’re all goddesses.

Share with the women you love. Press forward.

Women feed each other – literally and figuratively. 
No drama is too big for big women. 

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Two choices, dig your grave or create a life you love

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You have two choices, dig your own grave or create a life you love

Get out of the box,

the imaginary prison that keeps you paying small…..

https://www.facebook.com/farrell.sarahjane/videos/10154926489102565/

Don’t live a little, laugh and live a lot – rip snorting laughing at your own stupidity

And then get on with envisioning your life.

It’s quite simple really even though the reptilian part of your brain wants you to fight/fight or flee

And keep you alive rather than having a life.

Google can’t save you.

Here is a short but compelling list of things Google is good for:

  • Figuring out how the hell to poach a wet, floppy fish
  • Ordering purple pimp costumes to wear to dinner at your in-law’s
  • Frantically searching the correct pronunciation of the word “GIF”—before saying it out loud at your client meeting in 5 minutes

And here are things Google cannot help you with, ever:

  • Originality
  • Creativity
  • Discipline
  • Practice
  • Experience
  • Trial
  • Error
  • Finding your own fucking voice
  • …And having the guts to actually use it

sit on the fence

Everybody’s so busy peeking at their neighbor’s paper, trying to figure out the “correct” way to do everything. They think that if one person had success doing X, in this very particular way, then everyone must do X, in this very particular way.

But what if your neighbor is actually subpar?

Have you considered that?

Or have you taken someone else’s success at face value?

Tried to imitate it?

Do it the way they did?

Follow in their footsteps?

Why don’t you trust your own ideas?
Why don’t you trust your own voice?
Why do you always assume that the jackass down the street knows better than you?

There’s no such thing as one-size-fits all—especially in an online landscape where you’ve got to make your own rules or dig your own grave.

I guess the real question is: Do you want to be a knock off or a knock out?

One searches for inspiration. The other is busy being it.

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Wei qi is your body minds first line of communication with the outside environment.

Wei qi is produced by the wood element Gall bladder and is responsible for creating healthy energetic boundaries and our ability to say no, stand in our truth and protect us from both energetic and environmental toxins.

I cover the role of the body parts and their consciousness in relationship to the 5 elements – see all the details on The Comprehensive Guide to using chinese medicine in whole healing in my store http://www.accessurtrueature.com if you have done the 5 element personality quiz over at access your true nature and want to learn more about this ancient wisdom and healing.
Many spiritual traditions describe an energy field that surrounds the human body.

Modern science is beginning to study and discover the properties and effects of this morphogenetic field. It is within this field that the resonance patterns of our life experiences, beliefs, and inheritances from our ancestors, genetics and ways of thinking are stored.

These imprints or resonance patterns propel our life in a certain direction by attracting people, situations and experiences to us.

Have you taken the 5 elements quiz to discover what your primary emotional triggers are yet?

You can do so here at http://www.accessurtruenature.com and once you have done so, you will be sent a series of emails, audios and e-books to support you in healing from stress, anxiety and depression because you are ready to change unresolved ACE’s.
People who have gone through this FREE series say that the information has been life changing and being able to take simple steps to reclaim their health, wealth and happiness, well priceless to their well being!

You see, its unfortunate that so many of us are running programs that were imprinted at a very young age, or even inherited from our Ancestors. We can inherit patterns of unpredictable toxic stress like fear from famine, natural and man made disasters like war, financial hardship such as The Depression, and other emotional events that shape our family histories, we can also inherit their good experiences too. We call these emotional imprints “Core fractures” in our resonance patterns and they are created by the events in our life that break our trust, or leave us feeling betrayed, abandoned, or victimized.

These trauma imprints etch our morphogenetic field and compromise our physical genetic code, our DNA. They create blind spots, corrupt our potential in business and in relationships, cause us to engage in unhealthy behaviors,and lead us to repeat unwanted and self sabotaging patterns. Left unresolved, we find ourselves stuck in life.

People often blame the circumstances of their birth for their current life. But we’ve seen, in countless public figures, the power to overcome their deep traumas and break through the odds into a life of wild success.It’s all about resilience – and yes I have included a Resilience questionnaire and e-book in the FREE series as well because you are brave and courageous by nature. It’s important to remember that those public figures were once just like us, ordinary people with struggles and dreams, facing obstacles.

In ancient traditions emotions are viewed as energies.

It’s the heroes journey, where depression or fear asks if we can hold ourselves there, in the space and find the gift. In Quechua, the language of the Incas, there are 32 words for our word light. There was the morning sunlight, the light given off by fire, by lightening, by the moon, by fireflies, twilight light, and so on.

Emotions, too, were understood by the Shamans and used as powerful energies to accomplish many goals.

Emotions are valued as tools that were unique to humans, with which they could manifest new realities. Emotions can be separated into those that are pleasant and those that are unpleasant. Joy, fulfillment, love, and excitement are some of the pleasant ones, whereas fear, guilt , hate, anger, jealousy, shame, and frustration are unpleasant.

All things are equal, there are no good or bad emotions – Both negative and positive emotions can be utilized. The experience of fear, for example, gives us an opportunity to confront, acknowledge, and transform our boundaries and the illusion of separation. And when we feel love, when we feel into that emotional state, we heal, we become powerful beyond measure. Those who feel love and give love are able to receive love in return and are able to accomplish any goal.

Deep in the jungles of the Southern continent the medicine people, for the past 500 years, have been using and carrying on the knowledge of the power of certain energies and earth elements to heal disease and illness: emotional, physical, and inherited.

These ancient practices are used to help you heal and understand the meaning of your life. By releasing our negative patterns or emotions through energy healing or shamanic practices and integrating new imprints, you will be able to break free of old patterns and consciously create your life from the place of clarity, fluidity, abundance, joy and fulfillment. I love guiding people through the Compass directions and the 5 Elements theory of Chinese medicine because when you acknowledge your true nature, we flow through life’s ups and downs with more grace and ease. You can find all the details about these home study programs in my store over at http://www.accessurtruenature.com

Energy Healing is based in love and compassion and it works for our complete and total wellness: mental, emotional, spiritual and physical. When you recode the limiting patterns you’ve inherited or imprinted through negative experiences, you make way for new experiences, and open to positive, powerful outcomes.

You may have tried traditional therapy and not experience the type of results that you were hoping for. You may find yourself stuck in the same self-defeating patterns year after year.

Whether you are battling with depression, or being called to clear unhealthy patterns, and receive freedom from your past traumas, or you desire to be more fulfilled and bring your dreams into reality, this type of healing offers unparalleled results and the latest understanding in neuroscience, biology and functional medicine validate the profound and lasting results you can achieve.

The Shamans believe there are two kinds of illnesses… some that are created by our daily behavior or habits and some that are family, environment or socially and spiritually related.

Most HSP’s who feel depressed and anxious because they feel other human and non human’s thoughts, feelings and emotions, are more susceptible to illness & negative experiences, which can create a cyclical effect that feels never ending. Love, understanding and compassion are key for the successful healing of depression, disease, & illness: mental emotional, or physical.This is why knowing your ACE score is another great tool in reclaiming your health and happiness. You can take the ACE test over on my site, what ACE’s are and how to rewire your nervous system and reboot your brain.


Your Generational (Ancestors) Energetic Inheritances or Resonance Pattern

You inherit your Generational resonance patterns from your ancestors, with the direct lineage of 3 to 5 generations, sometimes as far as 7 generations, before you hold the strongest influence.

This ancestral resonance pattern is a result of their thoughts, feelings, beliefs, life experiences, and success and failure patterns around what’s possible for you in your life, confidence in favorable outcomes, or lack of confidence.

Your Parental Energetic Resonance Pattern

Your parental energetic pattern is a direct result of what your parents experienced and passed down to you through your genes. It contains their thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs, fear, worry, life experiences, success patterns, failure patterns, and lack, limitations or abundance around money and finances.

Your Environmental Energetic Resonance Pattern

Energy Healing Shamanic Practices

Your Environmental energetic resonance pattern is created during your childhood and young adulthood based on your interaction and experiences with those around you. It is made up of what you heard consciously or in the background during other people’s conversations, listening to arguments around money or bills, other people commenting about money based on their belief system (such as keeping money is harder than making money) and the ideas your formed about success and failure from what you noticed around you.

If you have adopted parents, their teachings, guidance, comments and experiences help shape your Environmental energetic resonance pattern.  When you go to school/college, your experience of other students coming from different family backgrounds, differing access to levels of educational institutions and your own judgment about self-value and worthiness play a big role in shaping your Environmental energetic resonance pattern.

Your Personal Energetic Resonance Pattern

Your Personal energetic resonance pattern is created based on your own life experience and patterns of success, failures and beliefs around money, success and financial abundance, and worthiness.

Based on your achievements, you strengthen different parts of your Personal energetic resonance pattern.  Each time you miss accomplishing a task or a goal and doubt yourself, your Personal energetic resonance pattern gets weaker.

If you have more thoughts and feelings around lack and limitations than abundance and possibility; if you focus on things that are not working; if you review and replay in your head situations that did not work out for you, then you lower your abundance vibration and imprint that lack and limitation onto your Personal energetic resonance pattern.

How are some of these energetic patterns running your life?

Are you empowered or hurt by your Generational, Parental, Environmental or Personal resonance patterns?
Do you feel that you are doing all that you can but somehow not making progress?
How would your life change when you can rewrite some of these imprints and subconscious patterns, heal your core fractures and change your belief systems?

How much better would you feel or how much more would you accomplish?

Out of the Blues-2
Not sure where to start but you know it’s time to BE your own medicine and align with your purpose through the hero’s journey?

Take a look and see if this resonates with you. Pathways to Purpose – experiential soul mapping journey is one of my favourite  entry level private programs where together we get to the root of your disease or unhappiness and heal from your cells to your soul.
https://spark.adobe.com/page/5seUR/
As the wheel turns, we must recognize this chance we have to become better, more compassionate, more grateful than we have ever been. And in doing this we affect change in our lives and all around us.

This is an opportunity for all of us, at the global and individual level, to step up, move out of the past, and learn to create the future that we all know is possible.

You could benefit from Pathways to Purpose 8 week program if….

  • You feel stuck and unmotivated
  • You experience a lot of self doubt and worry
  • You find yourself repeating unhealthy patterns
  • You find yourself reliving the past
  • You are living the “life of your dreams” and yet you aren’t as happy as you expected to be
  • You are seeking clarity for life purpose and guidance while walking your path
  • You would like to awaken your greater potential

Here are all the details again of the Pathways to Purpose program
https://spark.adobe.com/page/5seUR/

If you have any questions or concerns drop me a mail or book a 30 minute CLARITY to healing discovery session now.
It would be my honour to support you and guide you back to your True Divine Nature – after all its your birthright to be deeply happy and healthy.

PS: I am loving connecting with my family, old friends and brilliant women celebrating women in the UK. I will be sharing what I gift and receive from the CAM summit and all the new resources about healing from trauma very soon. Who knows with the faster speed of internet available here I may even do some spontaneous FB live chats or just some random happy dances. So let me know what you would like to dance and explore with all things health and wellness and lets get our happy on !!

 

P.P.S: I love it when healing trauma through root cause resolution becomes more mainstream through podcasts like this one where Alanis Morrisette speaks to Peter Levine the grandfather of somatic release techniques which i use in my practise.

Living beyond judgement

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Living beyond judgement is the authentic path to freedom.

One of the biggest toxic stressors is the addiction to approval, an energy of disease we take on when our need for approval over rides our own intuitive process to choose what we most need to stay healthy and happy regardless of the manipulations to control from others.

Its not your fault, its the bad programming of this reality and something I go deeper in to resolving through my work with adverse childhood experiences or ACES.

You can get your ACE score and learn more about them here:

https://thalia.leadpages.co/acetestoptin/

For today, just know that the approval trap worked for you in the past to keep you safe.

While you do want to know that what you’re doing is OK with them, what you really learnt as a child was to  avoid confrontation and judgment.

Your nervous system is wired for survival as is the primal part of your brain, which has not changed much to the modern standard of living in an unsafe world!

We have all be taught to believe (programmed against our true nature and gut knowing), that if get others to approve of us and of our actions

before we take action that they will also approve of our outcomes and

successes and they won’t criticize or judge us for them. And as you have probably experienced in your life, that doesn’t always happen.

Whether we succeed or we fail, approval can be hard to come by and we generally seek approval from people who won’t give it to us.

So we’re criticized and judge for everything even though we do everything we can go get others’ approval. What can we do?

change the way u look at things

There is a solution and it is up to us to make changes. We need to change our toxic approval energy into authentic authoritative energy,

where we acknowledge ourselves as the creator of our reality.

This is the spiral path, inwards where we get to heal from our adverse childhood experiences sabotaging the truth of whom we came here to be.

Yes, forget seeking approval and instead, become an authority (the author of) our reality.

Rewrite your story by shifting the illusion of separation, of not enough ness and get back to living intimacy ( in to me see).

sounds simple enough, but how do we walk the spiral path with so many noisy projections coming from the outside world?

 

Can you relate to the personality type of Earth element, the over over, the people pleaser, the good girl – all fractures of our souls authentic path to just love yourself where you are at

as doing the best you can with what you have beyond decisions, judgements, conclusions and other peoples points of views about how you should be living your life?

If you have not taken the 5 elements personality quiz to find out what your drives you, you can take the quiz here:

https://thalia.leadpages.co/5equizoptin/

5elementchart

Your quiz results will give you a deeper  understanding  to why you may be seek approval in the first place (to avoid judgment) even when your wise self knows better!

When you stop avoiding the feelings, then you can heal knowing that no matter what you do, people will always judge you!

As a child does it make sense that you would have shifted your perception IN ORDER to create secure attachment?

And that on a sub conscious level, other lifetimes of cellular memory would steer you away from rejection in this life time, if you had been cast out of your tribe and left to die in the elements

alone.

I will be sending you a FREE series of simple, life changing tools and action steps to assist you in becoming the author of your reality and stop making yourself sick so that you can recognise your self sabotaging patterns like seeking approval, playing a small game and create secure attachment by trusting your body mind wisdom to heal itself naturally?

When you get to truly know yourself in your True nature, then you can let others’ criticism and judgment be a gift from non attachment and set yourself free to follow your dreams and desires?

When you choose to stand in your truth no matter what, you get to be the catalyst for others to be the best version of themselves and together we make a positive impact to a world that thrives!

I want that, don’t you?

Take the quiz now https://thalia.leadpages.co/5equizoptin/

and post your comments, insights and aha’s you learnt about yourself in BEing your own medicine!

 

Telling your story with a whole heart

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Do you tell your story with a whole heart?

 

I love this quote:


“You either walk inside your story and own it, or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.”
~Brené Brown

It’s your living legacy, the significance without making it significant of what makes you, uniquely special!
The truth is, when we build ourselves up by healing from the inside out everything heals.
I’m trying to make myself stronger on the inside, to be able to heal with life on the outside.
That’s what I’m doing that’s significant.”
It is time to share your gift, your unique story with the world.

I was leading a client through the True Nature Mindfulness Change process this week. She had a huge breakthrough around a childhood memory that has been running her life for over two decades. By giving the unresolved pain – the trapped sensations of her child parts a voice, the constant back pain and deliblitating migraines that had been running her life, left her body and for the first time in a long time, she finally felt like an active participant in how she would create her life from the present. It was beautiful to see the twinkle come into her eyes and she honestly looked twenty years younger in that instant she realised she HAS CHOICE – choice to live life for herself, not her mother, not her sisters, not her husband, not her children, but for herself.

You can Listen to this free webinar here about healing the abandoned child.

and

part two here

I see spontaneous healings

like this every day in my work with adverse childhood trauma and often get asked if we ever truly get past our stories of abuse and trauma.

Can you relate to not wanting your story to be your story?

Yes?
Then consider what I told her, this IS your story.
There is a GIFT in your story of abuse, of neglect, of the challenges you overcame and that is what you came into the world and got through to share with others.
You see the world is not waiting for someone LIKE you, the world is waiting for YOU to tell your story as the GIFT not the victim of the lies someone told you were true about your experiences.
And guess what?
Until you embrace the gift you are, your body will continue to keep the score and it will hurt!

You can treat symptoms of anxiety and depression, you can release trauma from the body, but in the end fighting your true nature, your soul purpose for being YOU in a physical body –  IN the story, is exactly what causes a lot of the suffering, symptoms and disease in the first place.

For years I tried to live outside my story – telling myself I had nothing to be depressed about,
that I wasn’t traumatised,
that I wasn’t easily triggered,
that I wasn’t sensitive,
that I could keep up with what was expected of me by others
that I had no choice in what happened to me or my body.
that is was just life –
“make your bed, lie in it”
“its your latin life – deal with it”
and a whole lot of other lies, unkindness and judgements that held the suffering in place
…. about my story – my life experiences.


Like Berne Brown, I too am an expert on shame,

on not enoughness, on feeling like I am alone, I did not learn it with a phD at University, my phD is my story because after all I gained all my experience out in the world, in the big bad assery field of blame, shame, guilt, self sabotage and external bullying.

For years I did everything I possibly could to “fix” myself
prove I was enough
prove I was worthy
and loveable
and brilliant just as I was
messy and imperfect.
and make the in the lies I tried so hard to make true that I told myself and others especially in the moments of caring not empowering me to do something different.
I remember my Mom telling me as tears pure down my face after a particularly rough day at high school when I felt so alienated and alone
” oh they are just jealous, don’t worry about it.”
and her saying that make me feel even worse.

It added to my confusion, my anxiety and my suicidal thoughts.
By not acknowledging the fact that my nervous system was sensitive, that being intuitive made me easily triggered,
that I was entering adulthood from a starting post that was further back than many people,
I was making life a lot more difficult than it had to be.

This doesn’t mean staying small and remaining a victim.

On the contrary, having a spiritual breakdown a decade later
owning my heroes journey in that dark night of the soul when I entered the cave
was when I finally could own the gift of my story,
and then I because I could FEEL into it, I began to heal.

I had tried to own my story as a child, I shared excerpts of it with others, and I was told variations of ‘you’re too sensitive’ and ‘you need to try harder’, right after I’d been screamed at, shamed or ignored for a week.

I wasn’t TOO sensitive, I was hurt, confused and abused and abandoned.
That’s the truth under all the lies.

Now I vulnerably own and tell my whole story with a whole, open heart,

because my story is a version of your own story and visa versa.
I can say no when I feel overwhelmed without feeling like I’m a failure.
I can take baby steps, slow and unsteady at times with things that others do without hesitation,
without telling myself I’m useless or stupid.( My ex narcissistic husband was really good at reinforcing that!)

I have so much gratitude for my story and for the clients I see who remind me of my resilience in their story.
Together we create a space of fertile listening, of honouring the story from the child’s perspective,
of acknowledging that through the story you created secure attachment when you could not run away, or fight back or create sanctuary or receive
and you will continue to stretch outside your comfort zone to be able to
take care of yourself, as the loving parent who perhaps was not able to keep you safe back then in your childhood moments
and then the nervous system, the brain gets a chance to rewire and reboot from the present.

When you try to live outside your story,
you are constantly putting your nervous system in harm’s way, back in that moment as if it is happening in current time.
Your amygdala responds to the threat of being chased by the lion, and you are right back in the fight/flight/flee state.

For many of the clients I have the honour of guiding back to their True Nature it looks like:

  • taking a job that puts you in situations that constantly trigger  bullying or harassment -“I am not safe”.
  • staying in a relationship that is abusive and unkind – ” I am not worthy of love”.
  • beginning a weight loss program only to binge eat on day 2 “-  I need to be invisible”.

What would it be worth to you to not ever have to make yourself right again by being able to identify the patterns, the feeling under the feeling in those stories and get rd of them forever?
If you have a broken leg, you don’t agree to go hiking in the mountains with your able-bodied friends.
You don’t agree to a job that requires you to stand all day.

This doesn’t mean your leg will always be broken, but it will heal a lot faster if you stop acting as though the injury doesn’t exist.

“You cannot heal, what you cannot feel!”

If you rest up and take the pressure off, it may heal completely and you will be able to go hiking.
Or it might always give a twinge of pain so you decide to take a job that enables you to take the weight off it occasionally.

Our stories are always changing based on our current reality.
Acceptance of what is in any moment is what keeps us truly safe.
Stand up for your whole story, honour it, and if those around you tell you you’re playing the victim,
know that you’re doing the exact opposite.

Are you ready to take responsibility for your healing, your well-being and reclaim your True Nature to thrive?
In the Purpose Mapping process, you get to find your gold by going into the cave, embracing the parts of your shadow you wish were not you and seeing the gift of who you came here to be, BECAUSE of your story
And this means making space for growth at a pace that actually works – for you.

If you are curious about what any of this has to do with Lions and the lessons we can learn from the Power of the Pride and nature – why Zebras don’t get ulcers, I hope you will join Cara Gubbins and myself for a refreshing, honest conversation about how to respond to life stressors , calm down your nervous system and heal your body naturally.
You may be surprised how simple it can be to heal from trauma and abuse in a way that does not require
anxiety, depression or beating yourself up with all the head tripping.

Join me as I’m interviewed by Dr. Cara Gubbins on the Animal Wisdom Circle Expert Interview Series on May 6 at 11am PST.
Her show helps animal lovers and spiritual seekers connect with their truth so they can change the world. My interview is called “The Power of the Pride: What Lions Can Teach Us About Heart Connections and Teamwork,” and I’ll be sharing how to heal separation sickness, create calm in the chaos of the urban jungle, and use the power of animal totems.
Join us for what will be an uplifting and inspiring event.

You can register here: http://eepurl.com/bLd-a1 and get all the details for joining the call.

and in the meantime celebrate your incredible story – its what makes you, uniquely special!
It is time to share your gift, your unique story with the world.

Much love & and gratitude

P.S. READY TO SILENCE SELF SABOTAGE?:

Notice the name calling that happens with your inner voice.

Start to cultivate self compassion and radical acceptance of yourself with these reflections:

  • “I can have compassion for myself and accept myself just as I am”
  • “Let me just start right where I am, right now”
  • “I deeply love and accept myself”

Accepting yourself as you can give you a place to start without judgement. The next step is to ask for what you need and and move forward on your priorities.

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