Living beyond judgement is the authentic path to freedom.
One of the biggest toxic stressors is the addiction to approval, an energy of disease we take on when our need for approval over rides our own intuitive process to choose what we most need to stay healthy and happy regardless of the manipulations to control from others.
Its not your fault, its the bad programming of this reality and something I go deeper in to resolving through my work with adverse childhood experiences or ACES.
You can get your ACE score and learn more about them here:
For today, just know that the approval trap worked for you in the past to keep you safe.
While you do want to know that what you’re doing is OK with them, what you really learnt as a child was to avoid confrontation and judgment.
Your nervous system is wired for survival as is the primal part of your brain, which has not changed much to the modern standard of living in an unsafe world!
We have all be taught to believe (programmed against our true nature and gut knowing), that if get others to approve of us and of our actions
before we take action that they will also approve of our outcomes and
successes and they won’t criticize or judge us for them. And as you have probably experienced in your life, that doesn’t always happen.
Whether we succeed or we fail, approval can be hard to come by and we generally seek approval from people who won’t give it to us.
So we’re criticized and judge for everything even though we do everything we can go get others’ approval. What can we do?
There is a solution and it is up to us to make changes. We need to change our toxic approval energy into authentic authoritative energy,
where we acknowledge ourselves as the creator of our reality.
This is the spiral path, inwards where we get to heal from our adverse childhood experiences sabotaging the truth of whom we came here to be.
Yes, forget seeking approval and instead, become an authority (the author of) our reality.
Rewrite your story by shifting the illusion of separation, of not enough ness and get back to living intimacy ( in to me see).
sounds simple enough, but how do we walk the spiral path with so many noisy projections coming from the outside world?
Can you relate to the personality type of Earth element, the over over, the people pleaser, the good girl – all fractures of our souls authentic path to just love yourself where you are at
as doing the best you can with what you have beyond decisions, judgements, conclusions and other peoples points of views about how you should be living your life?
If you have not taken the 5 elements personality quiz to find out what your drives you, you can take the quiz here:
Your quiz results will give you a deeper understanding to why you may be seek approval in the first place (to avoid judgment) even when your wise self knows better!
When you stop avoiding the feelings, then you can heal knowing that no matter what you do, people will always judge you!
As a child does it make sense that you would have shifted your perception IN ORDER to create secure attachment?
And that on a sub conscious level, other lifetimes of cellular memory would steer you away from rejection in this life time, if you had been cast out of your tribe and left to die in the elements
I will be sending you a FREE series of simple, life changing tools and action steps to assist you in becoming the author of your reality and stop making yourself sick so that you can recognise your self sabotaging patterns like seeking approval, playing a small game and create secure attachment by trusting your body mind wisdom to heal itself naturally?
When you get to truly know yourself in your True nature, then you can let others’ criticism and judgment be a gift from non attachment and set yourself free to follow your dreams and desires?
When you choose to stand in your truth no matter what, you get to be the catalyst for others to be the best version of themselves and together we make a positive impact to a world that thrives!
I want that, don’t you?
Take the quiz now https://thalia.leadpages.co/5equizoptin/
and post your comments, insights and aha’s you learnt about yourself in BEing your own medicine!