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The low down on the coaching industry

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The low down on the coaching industry – the good, the bad and the ugly of the coaching industry

 

There is so much good about personal mentorship and facilitation through coaching I could write a book about it. I know it would have taken me so much longer to get where I wanted to be on my own. There are so many wonderful aspects in the field of personal growth and healing…but also some of the current failings in the industry. One that has already transformed so many people’s lives including my own over the past 20 plus years and one that will continue to have a massive impact because honestly you can’t see what you need when you are under a dark cloud of doubt and fear. It’s also a young industry – in its teenage years, if you will. And teenagers make mistakes. Teenagers go through growing pains. Teenagers need to see the bigger picture.

 

And I want you to see the bigger picture, too!

So that you can continue to live from the heart, trust in your innate wisdom and gifts and to grow into yourself.

Let me know what you think!

 

 

I have had some heated discussions with my peers on how we can contribute to change the pieces we don’t like about our industry and the movement back to heart based business is growing.

That was the driving force behind my global summit “Courageous, Confident, Inspired Women” where I interviewed over 27 change agents around the world doing business their way from kindness and generosity and heart.

 

More and more women who come to me start by saying they don’t really trust the coaching industry. They share that the marketing they see feels really glitzy and sales-y, as if celebrity coaches are inflating what’s possible as well as what’s really happening in their own business.

 

They tell me they’re scared of needing to have “Hell Yeah” attitudes in order to succeed, or being inauthentic in order to attract clients. They also admit that they feel pressure to spend what feels like a Godzillion ( a number so big only God knows) dollars in order to receive “formulas” that they sense aren’t really a fit for them.

 

Hearing all this pisses me off enough to do business differently.

Because I know that there are some not-so-pretty things happening in this industry that I really get triggered by. And I also know that those not-so-pretty things are damaging women, causing more trauma and holding the core wounding of “I am not good enough” in place more than supporting them to shine.

 

The coaching “noise” is everywhere — over social media, in your inbox, spoken from colleagues. It’s hard to know what’s the Truth and what’s your truth especialling when you are in the big BUT or comparison trap that feed a multi billion dollar industry.

 

If you’ve been part of my community, you know that over the last few years, I’ve spoken out more and more about what I call “glamour coaching”, false prophets, guru status in so called “consciousness circles” that keep you “hooked in like a cult” and feeling less than and why it is dangerous.

 

Anyone who wants you to pay them to learn meditation for examples pisses me off  Because you shouldn’t have to spend hundreds of thousands to learn to meditate or be deeply happy – you cannot meditate or tap or worse still “poc and pod” yourself into abundance or receive stellar support in your business.

 

And you shouldn’t have to feel like your sacred & unique business needs to fit into a one size fits all “formula” in order to be successful. So much of all the hype goes so against your true nature to trust what you know and be undefinable or unlimited. Been there done that one until I gave myself the middle finger and turned inwards to uncreate myself again!

 

And you shouldn’t get down on yourself because you haven’t earned 6 figures overnight.

 

Here are some insights that I hope will support you in navigating the coaching industry in an empowered, heart core way — with wisdom, confidence, intuition, and a strong sense of your ethics, integrity and authenticity.

 

I’ve created them because I believe so strongly & deeply in coaching as a tool and in the power of the coaching industry, and I want you to be able to love this field as much as I do:

 

 

Don’t believe everything you read

 

Unfortunately, not everything you read on social media is the “Truth”. There may be some facts that got “left out” from the marketing.

 

Use your gut knowing rather than judgment when you read things about people who create 6 figures in 3 months or people who work only 4 hours a week but earn 7 figures. Or people who have added 10,000 to their list in 10 days. All of those facts may (or may not) be true, but I guarantee there is more to the story than is being revealed.

Ask yourself – “Is this true?” and feel into that.

Ask your business – “who do I need to BE in order to create success on my terms?’

 

Remember that one wo/mans success may not be your definition of success.

 

For example – knowing I can be present for my daughter and work when I want is success for me. For you it may be travelling the world, free of fixed property and possessions.

 

What is your definition of success?

If money was not a necessity, what would you be doing? Where would you be living and how?

 

I have seen too many people lose their way when they make it all about the money. When you make money the driving force of your business, you kill your joy and your business.

 

Rather ask “how can I serve more? How can I lead from generosity? How can I have more money in order to support the thing I most care about? That way when you feel like throwing in the towel on your vision, the big WHY to get running water to rural communities or a safe house for women in abusive relationships or money to the Pachamama tribe to keep big oil companies from destroying the rain forests will motivate you to keep doing what you are doing!

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Make your vision BIGGER than your to do list!

Get really honest with yourself by acknowledging your selfish why to work a 4 hour week or travel the world or take 2 months off to play a year and go from there.

 

I am often told by clients that I am a truth teller, real, raw and authentic. I believe this is one of the reasons why my clients are so happy and successful —

  • They know beyond a doubt who they are through the Pathway to Purpose mapping and Mindful change process
  • They don’t have an unrealistic expectation to be something they are not and therefore they are pressure-free and judgement-free to follow their calling, which opens up so much more space and energy for persistent & aligned action that leads to results.

 

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Understand that the best kind of business is one that is grown sustainably based on whom YOU are and who you are becoming – that’s living legacy!

 

Speed and “Now! Now! Now!” are big themes in many coaching circles which through my own personal experience can be a big factor in how easily it is to lose sight of why we choose to do what we do in the first place. While I do love and appreciate when things can more forward at the speed of lightening (& sometimes they absolutely do), I can tell you without a doubt that a successful business is a sustainable one birthed and grown into from the heart.

 

I’ve seen way too many healers, coaches and entrepreneurs crash and burn because they haven’t created strong foundations in their business by getting really clear on their BIG why and what they stand for.

If you have not yet gone through my 4 part Diamond wealth video series and workbook, you can start there – just go to www.sarahjanediamond.com, opt in and go through the 4 C’s of heart based business.

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I believe living into your JOY of business as your LIFE all starts with healing your own core woundings, your adverse childhood experiences and your beliefs around money.

 

Foundation and persistence is a HUGE part of an entrepreneur’s work, and I believe that anyone that tells you that you don’t have to work to create what you want is wrong. Now, that doesn’t mean you have to work hard, or that you have to suffer. Quite the opposite — the point is to enjoy the work knowing your core essence and your GOLD – I lead my clients back to themselves through my Pathways to Purpose 10 week foundational process, which you can learn more about in my STORE. But it does take effort and energy to create something real.

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Earning $100K but spending $80K doesn’t equal business abundance

 

There has been a trend in the coaching industry towards spending a ton of money on more and more team members, more and more un-necessary programs, more and more applications & technology, more and more bells and whistles.

 

My husband likes to call me frugal, and he’s right: I just don’t like to waste money – it’s my ancestral Irish/ Jewish inheritance!

 

I grew my multiple 6-figure business without breaking the bank, and I teach my clients to do the same. Here is a tip to get you started: You shouldn’t be spending more than 40% – 45% of your gross income (unless you are earning less than $20K and you are investing in business support). I am proud to share that I average about a 60% margin.

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Price Yourself and Invest in Yourself at rates that feel in alignment with you

 

Nothing makes me angrier than experts telling new practitioners and entrepreneurs, straight out of the gate, to charge exorbitant rates.

 

This is usually a surefire way to create disappointment, despair and frustration.

 

I’m all about charging rates that feel GOOD to you and that help you really step into your value, but jacking up prices that feel out of touch doesn’t actually do that.

 

If you want to learn more about how to price your offerings with integrity, alignment AND your value intact, book a CLARITY session now http://www.vcita.com/v/sarahjanediamond/online_scheduling?service_id=b5c4bc1f907b8cf0&staff_id=81e1a3920426f6ce.

 

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Don’t Lose Yourself

I have hired a number of coaches over the years, and have received a ton of value from them. I would not have been able to create the business I’ve created without their love and support.

At the same time, there have been many instances where coaches made suggestions that just truly didn’t resonate with me. The suggestions were perhaps the “norm” or the “formula” in the industry, but I knew in my heart that it wouldn’t serve me or my business.

 

YOU know and understand yourself and your business better than anyone else. Trust yourself before you trust any formulas.

Know that there are MANY, many amazing coaches out there

This is the most important guideline in this article. Despite some of the not-so-great things happening in the coaching industry right now, overall it is a wonderful and magical industry that has broken stereotypes and boundaries, given hope and inspiration to millions, and truly transformed the world. I believe deep down to my toes that the world is a better place thanks to the coaching industry. And I believe it will do much, much, much more good in the decades to come.

 

If you know you need support in your business and life, don’t approach coaching from a jaded perspective. Know there are so many brilliant coaches out there who can change your life. The trick is to approach it all with some of the tips and pieces of wisdom I’ve given you in this article, and above all else — trust your intuition and love yourself.

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Heartful Call to Action

If you want an entrepreneurial journey that honors ALL of who you are, and to market effectively while loving yourself deeply, then you are in the right place. Get in touch for a CLARITY to health, wealth & happiness breakthrough session (my gift to you), and we’ll go deep into finding where you can embrace yourself more fully, where you are now, what is stopping for having success and how to get you to where you want to be with heart, integrity and in your True Nature

 

Book now – the world is waiting for you, not someone “like” you.

 

http://www.vcita.com/v/sarahjanediamond/online_scheduling?service_id=b5c4bc1f907b8cf0&staff_id=81e1a3920426f6ce

How to own the magic in your broken bits

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How to own the magic in your broken bits

I hope you’ve realized that the parts of you that you think are broken are also the parts that illuminate and shine – the magic and moon dust that makes you unstoppable and inspiring. The parts of you that feel driven to birth creations into the world and make shit happen, are the same parts that refuse to wear pants indoors, or won’t wear shoes ever like me because I need to stay connected to the Earth even when its frozen or “inappropriate” in some one else social standards!

BTW my amazing client Lee-Ann has a great solution for barefoot babes who hate rules, that truly makes my inner Goddess very happy – take a look at here beautiful foot adornments aka feetlets here  http://www.funkyfeetlets.co.za.
….because I believe your feet need to be free, or maybe you just can’t freaking STAND being told what to do even though um, sometimes you could use someone to tell you what to do.

I was writing in my morning pages today about all the ways over the past almost 5 decades used to make me think I was too broken to fix instead of celebrating that thats how the light gets in and thought it would inspire you to share your 101 plus ways you can turn your story around and inspire someone else. So here goes in the hopes you will dig deep and get to the root cause of what has kept you suffering instead of celebrating –
After all you get it when you get and it never shows up the way you think or looks the way you think it will but at the end of all the self judgement and beating yourself up over it, the botheration, the lamentation, the red, hot and holy it is simply YOUR MAGIC. Time to sprinkle it around like seed planting and proclaim to the world I have got this! Its time to be your own magic and shine .

101 plus ways I’m NOT broken can you relate to any of these?

I routinely scoff at books I know I need to read,
like The Ultimate Guide to Making Your Retirement Make Sense
or Master Your Cravings 4 Life (4 Real This Time)
or How to Adult Like You Care About Adulting.

I love salt even though it makes me weepy
and salty liquorice even though it makes me look 6 months pregnant
and Facebook even though it gives me zombie-screen-face.

I want to save the world and blow it up. (Sometimes in the same breath.)
I love people and wish at times the Earth would tip and all the stupids would slide off so the kids could run the world because they know how to have fun and
say it like it is and never let NO stop them
I don’t watch the news because it hurts to see how lost people are in fear and anger and how dying to be free is actually killing them because they don’t stop long enough to ask Is this True?
or How can I change this?
I care more about homeless animals than homeless adults.
I’m not sure my efforts to make a difference in the world make any difference,
just like I’m not sure my writing makes any sense to anyone but me
or that my life has an ultimate
deep-down-for-real-for-real purpose other than the one I give it.

I can’t extrovert for more than an hour at a time
and would take last place in the Small Talk Olympics.
“So um…yah…um…”

I’ve got a soft spot for all animals
and I love to have conversations with insects and rocks
and hug trees and howl at the moon with my huskies
and wish I could make the pain I feel for all living things
go away.

I routinely drink too much coffee and need to remember that coffee is medicine when taken as an enema literally saved my life many times.
I wear my pjs to the shops occasionally
and don’t brush my hair often because it does not like to frizz.

My I.Q. is embarrassingly high when compared with my credit score.
I believe cash is king and banks don’t like that and thats fine.

I suffer from seasonal affective disorder
and depression and abibliophobia —
the fear of running out of reading materials —
so I packed twelve books for my last trip and forgot I could
have made it easier on me and the poor guy who had to lift my case into the plane and just take my kindle.
There is something very satisfying about highlighting a paper page
even though i was told that was not very respectful to the books.

I routinely colour my whites in the wash because I forget to separate and
often have tissue all over my clothes because I don’t check my pockets before I throw them in the machine.
I would rather travel than spend money on just about anything else
with the exception of learning and giving back to great causes like animal sanctuaries, feeding schemes for feral cats and animal shelter, and Pachamama and Pencils for Change.

I am, officially, ‘obese’ on the medical terminology scale
and am better at showing people how brilliant they are and how to make money doing what they love than I am for myself.

I cried when I watched Avatar because my body knows dragons from past lifetimes and that as a human we need to wake up.

I avoid shopping malls and grocery shopping because all the entities hanging around want to have conversations and people give me the crazy look when I
stop and stare into space like a crazy person when I am actually telling them they don’t have to stay.

I still don’t know how to do contour makeup or like wearing any.
A 9 year old client told me just yesterday I should wear lipstick and that my hair is very grey.

She is right and I cannot wait to be totally grey and live into my wise crone.
The one time I tried to do eyebrow stencils I had a crooked eyebrow
and looked exceptionally skeptical all afternoon.
I have since had them tattooed by the creative genius Yvonne Taylor
I highly recommend her for all thing beautification
http://www.pinkpepper.co.za she is truly MAGIC and bringing the Goddess within out!.

I would rather live in a shoebox by the water than anywhere else
but for now I live a landlocked life and love that I can visit the bush and the elephants, lions and rhinos in a 60 minute drive.
Missing the ocean hurts every day which I ease with lots of splashing in an epsom salt bath..

I want to say I’m wise and beyond  trying to fix myself
but really, I know there is nothing to fix and the broken
bits is truly where the magic seeps in,

and so when I make extended eye contact with kids
and we break into dance at a restaurant or stuffy church service
I can call it ‘broken’ or ‘magic’
and either label will fit, depending on where I meet my other self.

When we gather and don’t talk about the weather
or exchange recipes but discuss souls and light and dark
and you show me who you are
we can call it ‘broken’ or ‘magic’
and either will be true

and when we agree that having to feed yourself three times a day,
every day,
FOR LIFE,
is really the worst,
again:

Magic.
Broken.
One and the same.

So let’s be magic, forever and ever,
which means broken, forever and ever,
and let’s enjoy the way the sunshine hits your forgotten to-do list,
the way you failed at meal planning again,
and all the other ways magic has found
to weasel its way into your existence,
today and every single day.

(But really: no shopping malls or grocery stores alone.)

For more random facts about me like you care – I share more
surprisingly imperfect things about me on my new website
www.accessurtruenature.com
and if you are wondering who made my website so incredibly
beautiful and so me and want to know how she can help you get your
message into the world
contact Nicole Barratt  at Alchemy
yup she is another magic maker
Her website http://www.studioalchemy.one,will be live soon,
we have been making magic some amazing offerings for you!

And let me know
What magic making capacities have you not been acknowledging?

Much love and gratitude

Sarah-Jane

 

Comment:

OMG I just love this … I laughed and laughed and laughed…

You are simply the best in every way possible… and one amazing person… actually most amazing person I am yet to meet..

I am truly blessed to have found you and have you as part of the most exciting journey of my life … you r the very first person ever to have made a difference and when I see already the difference I am so excited for the rest…

You are an angel from above and just know how grateful I am for you

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Living beyond judgement

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Living beyond judgement is the authentic path to freedom.

One of the biggest toxic stressors is the addiction to approval, an energy of disease we take on when our need for approval over rides our own intuitive process to choose what we most need to stay healthy and happy regardless of the manipulations to control from others.

Its not your fault, its the bad programming of this reality and something I go deeper in to resolving through my work with adverse childhood experiences or ACES.

You can get your ACE score and learn more about them here:

https://thalia.leadpages.co/acetestoptin/

For today, just know that the approval trap worked for you in the past to keep you safe.

While you do want to know that what you’re doing is OK with them, what you really learnt as a child was to  avoid confrontation and judgment.

Your nervous system is wired for survival as is the primal part of your brain, which has not changed much to the modern standard of living in an unsafe world!

We have all be taught to believe (programmed against our true nature and gut knowing), that if get others to approve of us and of our actions

before we take action that they will also approve of our outcomes and

successes and they won’t criticize or judge us for them. And as you have probably experienced in your life, that doesn’t always happen.

Whether we succeed or we fail, approval can be hard to come by and we generally seek approval from people who won’t give it to us.

So we’re criticized and judge for everything even though we do everything we can go get others’ approval. What can we do?

change the way u look at things

There is a solution and it is up to us to make changes. We need to change our toxic approval energy into authentic authoritative energy,

where we acknowledge ourselves as the creator of our reality.

This is the spiral path, inwards where we get to heal from our adverse childhood experiences sabotaging the truth of whom we came here to be.

Yes, forget seeking approval and instead, become an authority (the author of) our reality.

Rewrite your story by shifting the illusion of separation, of not enough ness and get back to living intimacy ( in to me see).

sounds simple enough, but how do we walk the spiral path with so many noisy projections coming from the outside world?

 

Can you relate to the personality type of Earth element, the over over, the people pleaser, the good girl – all fractures of our souls authentic path to just love yourself where you are at

as doing the best you can with what you have beyond decisions, judgements, conclusions and other peoples points of views about how you should be living your life?

If you have not taken the 5 elements personality quiz to find out what your drives you, you can take the quiz here:

https://thalia.leadpages.co/5equizoptin/

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Your quiz results will give you a deeper  understanding  to why you may be seek approval in the first place (to avoid judgment) even when your wise self knows better!

When you stop avoiding the feelings, then you can heal knowing that no matter what you do, people will always judge you!

As a child does it make sense that you would have shifted your perception IN ORDER to create secure attachment?

And that on a sub conscious level, other lifetimes of cellular memory would steer you away from rejection in this life time, if you had been cast out of your tribe and left to die in the elements

alone.

I will be sending you a FREE series of simple, life changing tools and action steps to assist you in becoming the author of your reality and stop making yourself sick so that you can recognise your self sabotaging patterns like seeking approval, playing a small game and create secure attachment by trusting your body mind wisdom to heal itself naturally?

When you get to truly know yourself in your True nature, then you can let others’ criticism and judgment be a gift from non attachment and set yourself free to follow your dreams and desires?

When you choose to stand in your truth no matter what, you get to be the catalyst for others to be the best version of themselves and together we make a positive impact to a world that thrives!

I want that, don’t you?

Take the quiz now https://thalia.leadpages.co/5equizoptin/

and post your comments, insights and aha’s you learnt about yourself in BEing your own medicine!

 

Telling your story with a whole heart

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Do you tell your story with a whole heart?

 

I love this quote:


“You either walk inside your story and own it, or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.”
~Brené Brown

It’s your living legacy, the significance without making it significant of what makes you, uniquely special!
The truth is, when we build ourselves up by healing from the inside out everything heals.
I’m trying to make myself stronger on the inside, to be able to heal with life on the outside.
That’s what I’m doing that’s significant.”
It is time to share your gift, your unique story with the world.

I was leading a client through the True Nature Mindfulness Change process this week. She had a huge breakthrough around a childhood memory that has been running her life for over two decades. By giving the unresolved pain – the trapped sensations of her child parts a voice, the constant back pain and deliblitating migraines that had been running her life, left her body and for the first time in a long time, she finally felt like an active participant in how she would create her life from the present. It was beautiful to see the twinkle come into her eyes and she honestly looked twenty years younger in that instant she realised she HAS CHOICE – choice to live life for herself, not her mother, not her sisters, not her husband, not her children, but for herself.

You can Listen to this free webinar here about healing the abandoned child.

and

part two here

I see spontaneous healings

like this every day in my work with adverse childhood trauma and often get asked if we ever truly get past our stories of abuse and trauma.

Can you relate to not wanting your story to be your story?

Yes?
Then consider what I told her, this IS your story.
There is a GIFT in your story of abuse, of neglect, of the challenges you overcame and that is what you came into the world and got through to share with others.
You see the world is not waiting for someone LIKE you, the world is waiting for YOU to tell your story as the GIFT not the victim of the lies someone told you were true about your experiences.
And guess what?
Until you embrace the gift you are, your body will continue to keep the score and it will hurt!

You can treat symptoms of anxiety and depression, you can release trauma from the body, but in the end fighting your true nature, your soul purpose for being YOU in a physical body –  IN the story, is exactly what causes a lot of the suffering, symptoms and disease in the first place.

For years I tried to live outside my story – telling myself I had nothing to be depressed about,
that I wasn’t traumatised,
that I wasn’t easily triggered,
that I wasn’t sensitive,
that I could keep up with what was expected of me by others
that I had no choice in what happened to me or my body.
that is was just life –
“make your bed, lie in it”
“its your latin life – deal with it”
and a whole lot of other lies, unkindness and judgements that held the suffering in place
…. about my story – my life experiences.


Like Berne Brown, I too am an expert on shame,

on not enoughness, on feeling like I am alone, I did not learn it with a phD at University, my phD is my story because after all I gained all my experience out in the world, in the big bad assery field of blame, shame, guilt, self sabotage and external bullying.

For years I did everything I possibly could to “fix” myself
prove I was enough
prove I was worthy
and loveable
and brilliant just as I was
messy and imperfect.
and make the in the lies I tried so hard to make true that I told myself and others especially in the moments of caring not empowering me to do something different.
I remember my Mom telling me as tears pure down my face after a particularly rough day at high school when I felt so alienated and alone
” oh they are just jealous, don’t worry about it.”
and her saying that make me feel even worse.

It added to my confusion, my anxiety and my suicidal thoughts.
By not acknowledging the fact that my nervous system was sensitive, that being intuitive made me easily triggered,
that I was entering adulthood from a starting post that was further back than many people,
I was making life a lot more difficult than it had to be.

This doesn’t mean staying small and remaining a victim.

On the contrary, having a spiritual breakdown a decade later
owning my heroes journey in that dark night of the soul when I entered the cave
was when I finally could own the gift of my story,
and then I because I could FEEL into it, I began to heal.

I had tried to own my story as a child, I shared excerpts of it with others, and I was told variations of ‘you’re too sensitive’ and ‘you need to try harder’, right after I’d been screamed at, shamed or ignored for a week.

I wasn’t TOO sensitive, I was hurt, confused and abused and abandoned.
That’s the truth under all the lies.

Now I vulnerably own and tell my whole story with a whole, open heart,

because my story is a version of your own story and visa versa.
I can say no when I feel overwhelmed without feeling like I’m a failure.
I can take baby steps, slow and unsteady at times with things that others do without hesitation,
without telling myself I’m useless or stupid.( My ex narcissistic husband was really good at reinforcing that!)

I have so much gratitude for my story and for the clients I see who remind me of my resilience in their story.
Together we create a space of fertile listening, of honouring the story from the child’s perspective,
of acknowledging that through the story you created secure attachment when you could not run away, or fight back or create sanctuary or receive
and you will continue to stretch outside your comfort zone to be able to
take care of yourself, as the loving parent who perhaps was not able to keep you safe back then in your childhood moments
and then the nervous system, the brain gets a chance to rewire and reboot from the present.

When you try to live outside your story,
you are constantly putting your nervous system in harm’s way, back in that moment as if it is happening in current time.
Your amygdala responds to the threat of being chased by the lion, and you are right back in the fight/flight/flee state.

For many of the clients I have the honour of guiding back to their True Nature it looks like:

  • taking a job that puts you in situations that constantly trigger  bullying or harassment -“I am not safe”.
  • staying in a relationship that is abusive and unkind – ” I am not worthy of love”.
  • beginning a weight loss program only to binge eat on day 2 “-  I need to be invisible”.

What would it be worth to you to not ever have to make yourself right again by being able to identify the patterns, the feeling under the feeling in those stories and get rd of them forever?
If you have a broken leg, you don’t agree to go hiking in the mountains with your able-bodied friends.
You don’t agree to a job that requires you to stand all day.

This doesn’t mean your leg will always be broken, but it will heal a lot faster if you stop acting as though the injury doesn’t exist.

“You cannot heal, what you cannot feel!”

If you rest up and take the pressure off, it may heal completely and you will be able to go hiking.
Or it might always give a twinge of pain so you decide to take a job that enables you to take the weight off it occasionally.

Our stories are always changing based on our current reality.
Acceptance of what is in any moment is what keeps us truly safe.
Stand up for your whole story, honour it, and if those around you tell you you’re playing the victim,
know that you’re doing the exact opposite.

Are you ready to take responsibility for your healing, your well-being and reclaim your True Nature to thrive?
In the Purpose Mapping process, you get to find your gold by going into the cave, embracing the parts of your shadow you wish were not you and seeing the gift of who you came here to be, BECAUSE of your story
And this means making space for growth at a pace that actually works – for you.

If you are curious about what any of this has to do with Lions and the lessons we can learn from the Power of the Pride and nature – why Zebras don’t get ulcers, I hope you will join Cara Gubbins and myself for a refreshing, honest conversation about how to respond to life stressors , calm down your nervous system and heal your body naturally.
You may be surprised how simple it can be to heal from trauma and abuse in a way that does not require
anxiety, depression or beating yourself up with all the head tripping.

Join me as I’m interviewed by Dr. Cara Gubbins on the Animal Wisdom Circle Expert Interview Series on May 6 at 11am PST.
Her show helps animal lovers and spiritual seekers connect with their truth so they can change the world. My interview is called “The Power of the Pride: What Lions Can Teach Us About Heart Connections and Teamwork,” and I’ll be sharing how to heal separation sickness, create calm in the chaos of the urban jungle, and use the power of animal totems.
Join us for what will be an uplifting and inspiring event.

You can register here: http://eepurl.com/bLd-a1 and get all the details for joining the call.

and in the meantime celebrate your incredible story – its what makes you, uniquely special!
It is time to share your gift, your unique story with the world.

Much love & and gratitude

P.S. READY TO SILENCE SELF SABOTAGE?:

Notice the name calling that happens with your inner voice.

Start to cultivate self compassion and radical acceptance of yourself with these reflections:

  • “I can have compassion for myself and accept myself just as I am”
  • “Let me just start right where I am, right now”
  • “I deeply love and accept myself”

Accepting yourself as you can give you a place to start without judgement. The next step is to ask for what you need and and move forward on your priorities.

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We must feel to heal

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We must feel to heal,

yet we love to find ways to immediately suppress and fix the uncomfortable stuff, right?

What if the only way to heal is to feel everything?

I hear so many people say that they don’t have time to slow down, to heal, to listen to their body –

which is why so many people take a break and get sick. The disconnect between the body and the mind has to come back to a holistic lifestyle where you get to reduce stress, heal your body and de stress because you are in touch with your body’s gentle nudges to pay attention to misalignment before it brings you down!!

We are 3 months in to 2016 and If you feel like life is passing you by, you don”t know how it can be APRIL already and are in a state of overwhelm or shutdown then let me support you in getting more Clarity you can book a complimentary CLARITY to healing breakthrough session now by going here:
https://www.vcita.com/v/sarahjanediamond

I was CELEBRATING with one of my VIP clients this week about how far she has come in the past 3 months we have been working together to heal her adverse childhood experiences. Today she wrote me back and said her results for Hep C that she has been struggling with since she contracted it through a blood transfusion after the birth of her so decades ago came back CLEAR!!
It is so easy to diminish our victories, forget how far we have come in shifting our minds and bodies and move into the space of divine emergence because life is fast, chaotic and sometimes feels too painful.
But the truth is, you have to FEEL in order to HEAL.
Its noisy out there and finding the right kind of support in this deep dive of root cause resolution is essential.

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what you think you become – heal trauma from the root cause of the story

I’ll be very honest here and say that entering into this level of healing isn’t always easy, as it means tapping into body sensations and emotions that may feel a little uncomfortable at first, but over time a person begins to welcome such discomforts and knows that they’re there to teach something very potent.It’s the gift in depression, in everything good, bad and ugly!!

Many of my clients are alternative medicine practitioners, energy healers, life coaches and body worker who have realised that in order to fill their practices and support their clients they need to heal their own core woundings.

When we stop feeling we also stop being able to listen to what our body wants.

The signalling mechanisms go off and we stop being a healthy human being. We go into low oxygen, low metabolism mode. (Hello person having trouble losing weight, whose immune system is weak and/or who can’t think clearly or find any creative juices. We need lots of oxygen to be a healthy human being.)

Our safety signals get thrown off. We start living in a stressed out survival state.(Hello person who is always afraid of putting themselves out there, and may be in a state of perpetual panic and anxiety about future events that haven’t happened yet, or past event that occurred a long time ago.)

Over time, this shows up in not just our health and biology, but as we become adults it seeps into how we think, work, create and connect.

This is what early and/or developmental trauma does to the grown up – those early strategies to stay safe and protect our being hang around forever, unless we address them. You cannot change what you don’t know is running your life and that is why working with my mindfulness change and purpose mapping processes is the foundation. It does not matter how good your money mentor or reiki healer is, if you don’t address the root cause of your pain, it will keep surfacing over and over again

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flow and the feeding cycle of chinese medicine

Many of you who know my personal story of  how I healed myself of chronic depression and life threatening disease is what brought me to this space of assisting others with their health crisis. It took me a long time to realise that my purpose, when I aligned with my vital essence would never have emerged if I had not walked the path through the pain.

One of my favorite means to help my clients is through the ancient wisdom of Chinese Medicine,because it is all about energy flow, pathways, patterns and meridians. That when we can see the inter connectedness of all things, that how we tend to our internal gardens is a reflection of the outer garden and that the survival of the planet depends on each us practicing radical self care, love and allowance.

April is the time we move from the lungs and into peak of large intestine time, the Metal element, the emotion of surrender, grief and letting go.
Its Autumn in the southern hemisphere and an invitation to shed our “leaves” and move into the roots as we ready our body for the colder months.
In the North, you are moving into Wood element, Spring and a time associated with the Liver and Gall Bladder systems.

But in Chinese Medicine, the Liver doesn’t just help us digest fat, filter out toxins, and synthesize hormones.
It also helps us to process emotions, governs vision in both the literal and metaphysical sense, and helps us put plans into motion.
It has to do with planning,creativity, flexibility, decision-making and having the heart (courage) to move forward with ease and grace. 
To help you harness the energy of the season, whether you are in Autumn or Spring, I am sharing an introduction audio from my Going with the flow through the 5 Elements to Whole health Master class series.

Listen to it on your drive to work. Or better yet, on a walk into nature.

Spring and the wood element: http://1. https://soundcloud.com/sarahjanediamond/wood-element-indecision-to-inspired-action/s-ifacZ

And if you find this stuff intriguing and are ready to learn more about how to reconnect with flow in YOUR True Nature I am relaunching this course with live weekly calls and experiential guided tools and processes in a few weeks.  It will help you to reclaim your best life and BE YOUR OWN MEDICINE.

Today is the beginning of the rest of your life. Join me on this important journey and I promise you’ll be inspired and supported as you find the joy in life you truly deserve.

Much love and to your healthy, happy life

Life can be a bitch sometimes, can’t she?
Do you ever feel like there’s got to be something better out there for you?
Maybe you had something happen to you in life and it really shook your world: had a relationship break up, lost your job, you lost a loved one, or even had an illness…there are so many things we can love and then lose.

Did you know that our energy has EVERYTHING to do with EVERYTHING?
Yes, it does, you can live a life of pure HAPPINESS, WEALTH, LOVE, whatever you desire you can create!
You know there’s supposed to be more to life – more joy, more fun, and more fulfillment – but you just don’t know how to create that.

Do you feel like you need to reassess and redefine who you are and what you want the rest of your life to be like? 

Well then….you need to check this out 

http://healyourselfenergysummit.com/SarahJane 

Denise has gathered together 30+ energy experts from all over the world to talk about how to heal yourself through your energies and create a life that excites you! And I’m so honoured to share a little about how I assist my clients through “Lifestyle medicine” and how to truly reclaim your health by being your own medicine!

It’s the…Heal Yourself Energy Summit; discover how energy affects your health, mood, motivation and future! 

This is such an important topic and one that’s close to my heart – how we can heal, how we can be truly happy and healthy, and live the fulfilled lives we’re all entitled to. It is your birthright to thrive!

You won’t want to miss this! 

Click here to join these inspiring conversations and heal from the inside out!
http://healyourselfenergysummit.com/SarahJane 

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Known for her authentic, fun loving spirit, Judy has a charming way of leading her guests to share new innovative ideas and processes to support Your Growth.  See what some of her listeners say:“You are such a beacon of light for all of us in creating this magnificent event.  I am so deeply grateful for you and for all who share themselves on your show.  You and your guests have made my vibration sky rocket into the “ether”!  You are so loved.  Much love, D & Anya” 

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